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Parents: When you’re eating a ham sandwich on the soccer sidelines at 3 p.m., is it time to reevaluate your life?

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May 23, 2025

Welcome to May-cember, my friends, the month in which parents relinquish all earthly responsibilities to spend more hours than a five-star Uber driver in their car or else idle in grim middle school gyms, holding iPhones in the air like lighters at a Phish concert, scouring for reliable Wi-Fi.

“I have a hard time understanding how sports trump sleep and health. Full stop,” says Arlington’s Dana Lynne Varga, a mom of two neurodivergent elementary schoolers. Both play spring sports. The games start late and run long, upending dinner and crucial downtime.

“I expressed my frustration with the late start times for games for kids so young and was met with lots of camaraderie and a lot of ‘get over it.’ … The late games are a huge lift,” she says.

Her kids’ routines are disrupted; everyone is grouchy. She understands that many coaches are volunteers who can’t arrive until evening — they double as working parents! — but this means that games seem to finish when bars close. She‘s reconsidering her kids’ participation in certain sports because it’s untenable.

What’s going on here? Do kids with extracurriculars belong to a leisure class of parents with ultra-flexible jobs — or no jobs at all — with infinite time to chauffeur, cheer, and coach? Don’t the Sports Gods know that people work?

“In my town, it feels like [sports are] social hour for parents who have too much free time: It’s a battle of judgment on both sides, which is so unfair and ultimately makes kids feel like they aren’t as supported as other kids. I think youth sports organizations need to better support families,” says one Freetown parent.

Organized sports are increasingly becoming the realm of the well-off, with parents who can afford to pay hefty club fees and maintain autonomous schedules.

A recent study of US sports participation over the last 60 years from Ohio State University found a significant increase in kids playing organized sports, particularly among more privileged, educated families.

The study found that about 70 percent of Americans born in the ’90s, reaching age 18 by 2015-16, said they took part in organized sports through recreational, school, or club teams, while slightly more than half of those born in the ’50s reported participating in organized youth sports.

However: For kids born in the ’50s, there were few class differences in who played organized sports. For kids born in the ’90s, the share of those who played organized sports were 24 percentage points higher when they had a college-educated parent. The average family paid $883 annually for one child‘s primary sport in 2022, according to Project Play by the Aspen Institute.

“For most of us who are single parents, poverty, a lack of time, an always messy home, a lack of support in emergencies, and loneliness is enough of a burden. We don’t need the responsibility of providing more play and activity as well to keep our kids at a baseline level of health. The ironic thing is that most schools have plenty of playground space and wouldn’t have to do much to provide the physical activity kids need to be healthy. I truly hope someone takes this seriously at some point,” says Cambridge’s Pam Cash.

One interesting factoid: This disparity is particularly noticeable for kids ages 6-12, where sports participation in homes earning $100,000 or more increased 6 percent from 2023 to 2024 — but actually declined 2 percent for the wealthiest youth ages 13-17.

Why? Too much pressure, maybe. Instead of choosing one sport, some kids are loading up on two or three. Or else they’re specializing in one sport so narrowly, competing on so many teams with so many conflicting schedules, that they’re run ragged before they’re old enough to drive to a 9 p.m. practice themselves.

“These kids are often being fed sports with a fire hose,” said Tom Farrey, Aspen Institute Sports & Society Program executive director. “There is lots of pressure on them to play one sport year-round, traveling all over the place. Some are burning out or are just too injured to continue playing.”

Their parents are burned out, too, and this is true even for activities that kids enjoy. Westwood‘s Patrick French found time to weigh in on the extracurricular conundrum mid-afternoon, while driving his son to an a cappella lesson. Both he and his wife have full-time jobs with on-site components; she serves on their town’s school committee, and he performs in community plays. Their teens participate in soccer (school and club), theater, and voice. Occasionally, the couple finds time to watch a TV show; they’re midway through four different series and will finish one, hopefully “The Wire,” when they find time.

I ask French how we got here. I tell him that I remember my own childhood — when the highlight of my week was riding a pink Huffy to New London Style Pizza with my best friend, Vicky, and when extracurricular activities were held right after school, at the school. Seems quaint now.

“We’re often signing our kids up for all these structured activities in the hopes that, by doing all these things, they’re going to continue to really develop as human beings,” he says. “I think it’s probably peer pressure. If you’re not participating in as many things, then maybe, in some ways, you’re worried about your kid being left out.”

FOMO is real. Parents who weighed in for this piece underscored that the meteoric rise of club sports — with weekends-long travel tournaments in towns you’ve never heard of, often populated by college recruiters — are a presumed necessity for kids who long to compete at a higher level. Which, fine: But for every budding Jayson Tatum, there are thousands of anonymous athletes riding the bench and devouring 12 straight nights of Chipotle while their parents do off-camera Zoom calls from a hot spot in the parking lot.

Then there’s the mental load: the logistics, the carpool strategizing, the remembering which bag goes with whose cleats and which car goes to which field. New research from the University of Bath and the University of Melbourne, published in the Journal of Marriage & Family, reminds us that mothers overwhelmingly carry this mental load.

The study found that American moms take on seven in 10 of all household mental load tasks, ranging from planning meals and arranging activities to managing household finances. This comes as no surprise to any mother who has six different league-scheduling apps on her phone, a carpool text thread with 12 unknown numbers, and a rickety foldable chair with a cup holder rattling in her trunk, ready for action.

Emily Sheff, an assistant professor of nursing at Rivier University, has a PhD in burnout among nursing faculty. Expertise aside, the Bedford, N.H., mom is a work in progress as she navigates extracurriculars for her teenagers; in fact, she transitioned to a work-from-home teaching position to keep up with their schedules.

To maintain some shred of balance, Sheff wakes up at 5:10 a.m. for a morning boot camp to meet friends.

“That’s where we stress about our days ahead. I need to have fellow moms and friends in the trenches with me, and it helps to debrief and de-stress,” she says.

Meanwhile, pulling her kids from activities — even inconveniently timed ones — doesn’t feel like an option, either. Success favors the flexible.

“Then they miss out on an opportunity, which leads into the tryouts in two months, and that means they don’t make the team,” she says. “What I’ve been doing for the past 17 years is just taking on the burden, and then once every six to eight months, I have a huge cry session. I break, and then I pick up the pieces, and I start all over.”

Once a month, she joins friends for margarita lunches to vent about the inequity of it all, even though she has a helpful partner who pitches in. The household systems are so entrenched that it doesn’t much matter.

“My husband always says: ‘What can I do? How can I help? Let me know what to do.’ But again, it goes back to the mental load: If I have to know what to do in my head and then communicate to you what to do and then check after it’s done, that doesn’t even help,” she says.

Hingham’s Cam Smith, who has a fairly autonomous work schedule — and three kids in a total of 20 activities, many of which meet multiple times per week — sees the double-standard firsthand. Although he‘s the point person for most activities, many messages are still reflexively channeled to his wife, whose job is less flexible.

“I do think there’s a deeply unfair mental load which still gets put on mothers every time in this. The sports tend to be a little better, but all these activities take [my wife’s] contact info because they just assume she needs to be the primary contact. Our daughters have been competing in Irish step dance for more than six years, and we have tried numerous times to get their Irish dance school to add my contact to all their correspondence. They just don’t do it,” he says.

Brookline’s Julie Starr, a single mom who works full time as a nutritionist, relies on carpools and ride-sharing for her high-school athlete, who runs track and plays soccer. She outsources where she can because she has to: At a certain level, deprioritizing practices or games just isn’t an option.

Her work vacations don’t match up with her daughter’s vacations, but sports schedules don’t match working realities, either. So she improvises.

“If you go on vacation, you’re not going to play. During her school vacation, practices are during the day, so she takes an Uber sometimes,” Starr says. “The vacation weeks are horrible.”

Sometimes Starr takes client calls from the parking lots of games; other times, she skips games entirely (and hopes other parents let themselves off the hook, too). But she insists on serving a nutritious dinner no matter what — “we’re humans, not raccoons,” she says — but that requires conscientious meal prep on Sundays: sweet potatoes, pre-chopped salads, and roast chicken play starring roles. Even when she’s not working, she’s working.

Starr has advice for parents just now wading into the madness, wondering if their kids are benefiting from this whirlwind.

“Notice: ‘Are they happy? Do they really enjoy doing this?’ And don’t get too crazy before they’re in seventh grade, especially with the club and the travel teams — and find somebody to carpool with,” Starr says.

Needn’t be a friend, just a sentient being with access to a driver’s license.

Another key tip: Keep perspective.

“Having so many sports all at once is too much on their bodies as well. It’s about keeping in mind that, when they’re 25 years old, the bulk majority of these kids aren’t going to be professional sports players,” says Lakeville’s Krista Allan, a single mom who was widowed several years ago.

Time is precious. And so, when deciding how to occupy her kids, she thinks: “This is really about learning teamwork, learning how to take guidance from other people, and thinking through the real purpose of sports and activities for kids. I think it’s important to level-set.”

Wise words, but hard to remember when you’re driving from Raynham to Rowley in the hopes of seeing your child compete for 10 seconds in the high-visibility lacrosse tournament while eating a Chipotle burrito with your one free hand.

“I personally always feel like I’m running from one thing to the next and hardly ever taking time to just stop and — I don’t know — look at a flower blooming for a second,” says French, the Westwood dad.

That is, unless he‘s stopped in traffic on the way to a game at rush hour.

Kara Baskin can be reached at kara.baskin@globe.com. Follow her @kcbaskin.

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My Christmas wish this year? Less diapers, more sleep

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December 25, 2025

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Guy Dossi, Sports Editor

Dear Santa,

Well, it’s that time of year again – the time when hundreds of thousands of young children, and one 37-year-old sports editor, sit down to write you their annual letter. I know you’re busy fielding Christmas present requests, but I was hoping that maybe this year you could find it in your heart to make one or two of my wishes come true.

First, as the father of a 2-and-a-half-year-old and a 6-month-old, I want the same thing every parent in my situation wants: sleep. To say I haven’t had a good night’s sleep in a while would be an understatement.

I remember when we were a one-child family. Back then, I got plenty of sleep. When the baby cried, he needed to eat – a request only the lovely Mrs. Dossi could fulfill – so I simply rolled over and went back to sleep.

With just one child, if one parent needed a little extra R&R, the other could be on baby duty while the tired one caught some Zs. With two, that’s no longer the case. Sleep schedules are completely different, with one awake while the other is sleeping. There aren’t many time slots that allow Mama and Dada to get caught up on our slumber.

And there’s nothing quite like getting only a handful of hours of sleep before being woken up with a foot in my face or seeing a little boy’s smile just inches from my nose saying, “Hi, Dada.”

Speaking of my little boy, Santa, is there any chance you – or maybe even Mrs. Claus – could potty train him? I know that eventually he’ll be out of diapers. He can’t be going to the prom with his Huggies sticking out from his tuxedo trousers. But getting him to simply sit on the potty has been a battle we are just not winning.

Our little boy has become quite the talker and has an impressive vocabulary. But there’s nothing more demoralizing than changing his smelly, rancid diaper while he lies on his back saying, “That’s disgusting. That’s gross, Dada,” as I’m knuckles-deep in baby poo. I’m well aware it’s disgusting and gross. I don’t need the reminder.

We’ve tried potty training a couple of times, and each attempt has ended with the diaper going back on. At this point, I’d settle for him feeling comfortable using the cat’s litter box. At least it would be a step in the right direction.

Another thing I’d like for Christmas is for my little girl to stay this little. I won’t lie – the first few months of her life, she was not an easy baby. Her brother was the reason we wanted a second child, and she may be the reason there won’t be a third.

Then, one day, she went from being the worst baby imaginable to the sweetest, cuddliest, cutest baby I’ve ever seen. She just sits there, smiling and cooing, melting every heart in the room. Because she was so difficult early on, I’m really enjoying this stage and savoring just how adorable she is.

I know she’s going to grow, and those little coos will turn into words. While I’m excited for the day she says, “I love you, Dada,” I’m not looking forward to her discovering the dreaded word every parent fears: no.

So if there’s any way she could stay like this – at least until next Christmas – that would be great.

As for the lovely Mrs. Dossi, what do you get the woman who already has everything? She has two beautiful children and a husband who is constantly funny, never insensitive and just happens to be right about everything. You don’t need to bring her anything this year. Being married to me must feel like Christmas morning 365 days a year.

As you can see, Santa, my list isn’t very long this year. I would ask for the Dodgers to have a losing season, but I’m pretty sure you’re also on their payroll, so I’ll stick with realistic requests.

I look forward to a full night’s sleep, no longer changing poopy diapers, and being greeted every morning by the smile of my beautiful wife – not the cry of a little boy who doesn’t want to eat his pancake because the fork he was given was green instead of blue.

And even if none of my Christmas wishes come true, I’m still a pretty lucky Guy.

Merry Christmas, Santa.

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PROFILE | Red Star’s Damien Durand – from youth activity leader at 25 to Ligue 2 top-scorer at 30

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December 25, 2025

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“When your passion finally becomes your job, it’s an incredible feeling,” Damien Durand says in a recent interview. “At the age of 25, working as a youth activity leader, you tell yourself your chances are very limited.”

At 30 years-old, Durand is not meant to be here. At least, not according to the usual pathways. There was no academy conveyor belt, no early professional contract, no carefully managed ascent. Instead, there were years spent in the amateur divisions, balancing football with work as a youth activity leader in Morangis, playing for pleasure as much as ambition.

And yet, midway through this season, Durand finds himself co-leading the Ligue 2 scoring charts and spearheading Red Star FC’s push at the top end of the table.

The Frenchman signed his first professional contract at 26, an age when many forwards are already peaking. Rather than trying to compress a career into fast-forward, he had to embrace each step. Discovered late by former Red Star manager Vincent Bordot while playing for Sainte-Geneviève-des-Bois in the fourth tier, Durand stood out not through polish, but through honesty. “In terrible conditions, on a muddy pitch, I saw someone who didn’t hide,” Bordot recalled to Le Parisien. “He showed the simple pleasure of making runs, dribbling, playing football.” That simplicity has never left him.

Durand – an ever-present in Red Star’s rise

At Red Star, he became Mr Reliable. A number 7 whose qualities are deceptively effective. Compact, explosive over distance and difficult to read in one-on-ones, Durand thrives on timing rather than brute force.

When current Rennes manager Habib Beye arrived in 2021 to steer a Red Star side to safety in the third tier, Durand was the main creative source. When Beye earned promotion to Ligue 2 with Red Star, the Frenchman was named in the Championnat National team of the season. When Grégory Poirier took the helm at the club and steered Les Audoniens to safety, it was Durand who had scored several key goals to keep the club in the second tier. At every step of evolution for Red Star comes the stepping up of their winger, nicknamed ‘DD7’ by his teammates and the club’s supporters.

Yet this season, the Frenchman, along with the rest of Poirier’s dressing room, have found yet another level. Eight goals in 16 Ligue 2 appearances have put him level with Saint-Étienne’s Zuriko Davitashvili and Troyes’ Tawfik Bentayeb. Sometimes confidence comes from experience, reliability, and the simple fact of taking pleasure in doing what you love.

GFFN | George Boxall

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Public Defender Melanie Sellers announces 2026 candidacy for Public Defender

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December 25, 2025

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Public Defender Melanie Sellers announces 2026 candidacy for Public Defender

Published 10:00 am Wednesday, December 24, 2025

District Public Defender Melanie Sellers has officially announced her candidacy for the 2026 Republican Primary and General Election. With the strong recommendation and support of retiring District Public Defender Jeff Kelly, Gov. Bill Lee appointed Sellers to the office of First Judicial District Public Defender effective March 1, 2025. Sellers will appear on the 2026 Republican primary ballot in Carter, Johnson, Unicoi and Washington counties to fill the remainder of Mr. Kelly’s unexpired term. Sellers is a seasoned attorney and a respected leader with more than 28 years of experience in law and public service.

“My leadership as District Public Defender is guided by a deep respect for the people we serve and the fundamental rights that ensure fairness in our justice system. I believe that careful, compassionate legal advocacy can secure those rights while also changing the course of a person’s life, strengthening families and improving communities. I strive to lead an office that values preparation, professionalism and empathy, where attorneys and staff are supported in providing meaningful, effective representation grounded in the Constitution. Justice is best served when every person is heard, their rights are fully protected, and each case is approached with care, integrity and a commitment to fairness.”

Sellers’ platform for District Public Defender centers on:

Protecting constitutional rights and ensuring fairness in every case
Treating every client with dignity and respect, regardless of charge
Promoting professionalism, sound judgment and ethical practice
Strengthening public trust in the justice system through consistency and integrity
Mentoring and supporting attorneys and staff to do their best work
Addressing barriers to client success before disposition
Allocating resources to provide a meaningful opportunity for client communication

A longtime Carter County resident, Sellers is an honors graduate of East Tennessee State University and the University of Tennessee College of Law with a concentration in trial advocacy. Since bar licensure in 1997, Sellers has dedicated her career to criminal law, with more than 12 years as an assistant district attorney and more than 14 years as an assistant public defender. Sellers is particularly passionate about advocating for individuals facing challenges such as substance use disorder, mental illness or intellectual disability. She is a charter member of both the First Judicial District Felony Recovery Court and Northeast Tennessee Residential Recovery Court teams, which currently serve more than 130 individuals to support long-term recovery from substance use disorder and to reduce criminal recidivism.

Outside of her professional endeavors, Sellers is married to her husband, Rob, and is the proud parent of two sons, Bailey and Clay Gwinn. She has long been involved in youth sports, previously serving on the boards of several local organizations, including the former Carter County National League, the Cyclone Touchdown Club and the Cyclone Wrestling Booster Club. Additionally, Melanie served for five years as a commissioner on the Elizabethton Regional Planning Commission.

The First Judicial District Public Defender’s Office represents individuals who cannot afford an attorney in the General Sessions and Criminal Courts of Carter, Johnson, Unicoi and Washington counties. The office is currently averaging more than 5,700 cases per year.

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Mite 1 and Mite 2 Jamboree at the Ruk | North Shore Journal

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December 25, 2025

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SILVER BAY – The local hockey community gathered in force this past weekend as the “Ruk,” or more formally known as Rukavina Arena, transformed into a hub of competitive spirit and youth athleticism. On December 20 and 21, the arena hosted the 2025 Rocky Taconite Mite 1 and 2 Jamboree, marking the largest and most anticipated event on the program’s annual calendar.

The scale of this year’s jamboree was astounding, featuring a massive lineup of over 20 teams divided between the Mite 1 and Mite 2 levels. The event drew hundreds of families to Silver Bay, with young athletes traveling from throughout the Duluth area, as well as from Two Harbors, Hermantown, and Esko.

Silver Bay was well-represented on the ice, fielding a team at each level. For many of these local players, the weekend was the culmination of eight weeks of rigorous preparation. Since the season began two months ago, the Mites have been hitting the ice for early morning and evening practices, focusing on the fundamentals of skating, puck handling, and teamwork.

The hard work clearly paid off. Coaches reported being deeply impressed by the strides the players have made since their first practices in October. Beyond the goals and assists, team leaders emphasized that the athletes represented the Silver Bay program with exceptional sportsmanship and grit. “The kids have been working very hard in practice these last two months in preparation for this weekend,” shared Gus Engstrom, President of the Silver Bay Blue Line Club. “Needless to say, they represented themselves and our program very well. All of the coaches are impressed with the strides they have made so far this season.”

Executing an event of this magnitude required a coordinated effort from the entire community. Organizers were quick to credit the “behindthe-scenes” heroes who kept the tournament on schedule. High praise was directed toward the dedicated arena staff, whose maintenance of the ice and facilities at the Ruk ensured a professional environment for the visiting teams.

The jamboree’s success also hinged on a small army of parent volunteers. These community members filled vital roles, from staffing the bustling concession stands and greeting visitors at the welcome table to meticulously tracking game play in the scorekeepers’ box.

“There are a great number of people that helped make the jamboree run smoothly,” said Engstrom, expressing deep gratitude for the volunteers who handled the “various odds and ends” that come with hosting dozens of teams.

As the 2025 Rocky Taconite Jamboree concluded, the focus remained on the mentorship of the players. Organizers closed the event with a final thank you to the coaching staff, whose countless hours of volunteer time provide the foundation for the area’s youth hockey success. With the largest jamboree of the year now in the books, the Silver Bay Mite program looks forward to continuing its momentum through the remainder of the hockey season.

To stay updated on local schedules or to support youth sports, visit the Silver Bay youth hockey website at www.silverbayhockey.com.

Photo submitted by Gus Engstrom

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Metro Nashville Public School students’ artwork to be featured on new salt trucks

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December 25, 2025

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NASHVILLE, Tenn. (WSMV) – Nashville is getting five new salt trucks to help prepare for winter weather, and some of them will be covered with artwork from some of Nashville’s youngest artists.

This is through a partnership between the Nashville Department of Transportation and Multimodal Infrastructure (NDOT) and Metro Nashville Public Schools. Elementary schools from across Davidson County submitted artwork to get their pieces chosen to cover the new salt trucks, but only five made the final cut.

“The kids loved it. We had a ton of pics to go through to get to the final five,” said Phillip Jones, the deputy director for NDOT. “Hopefully, we’re going to kind of deploy these five trucks in the area where these schools are, so hopefully these kids will be able to see their artwork.”

Metro Nashville leaders say they will reveal the full designs and their new names in January.

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Regional Youth Assessment Center corporal hopes to provide familiarity, positivity during Christmas shift – Grand Forks Herald

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December 25, 2025

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EDITOR’S NOTE: This story is part of a holiday series that will run through Dec. 25 in the Grand Forks Herald.

GRAND FORKS — Though some work on Christmas out of obligation or financial strain, others choose to spend their holiday working to create a positive experience for those who can’t be at home with their families.

For a second year, Cpl. Lexi Smart offered to spend her holiday with residents of Grand Forks’ Regional Youth Assessment Center, which houses youth either in need of emergency shelter, detention or something in between.

“I know that this time can be really hard for the kids,” Smart said. “Some of them have been there a lot longer than others, and they are missing out on seeing their family. I wanted to be a smiling face that maybe can help brighten their day.”

Her family works to accommodate her schedule, which is something they’ve gotten used to over the years because another relative of theirs works as a firefighter.

Smart tries to spend the holiday providing normalcy for the kids while they’re at the center. Last year, she and a coworker bought gifts for the kids. Because they spend so much time together, Smart and her coworker had ideas for what the kids would like and what they’re most interested in.

“We wrapped them, too, so they got to have a little bit of familiarity with Christmas, they got to unwrap gifts,” she said.

The Regional Youth Assessment Center houses juveniles, typically between ages 10 and 17, who either need to be in detention throughout court proceedings, are in trouble that doesn’t meet the level of detention or simply need emergency shelter.

Smart has been working at the center for about two years, and as a corporal, she’s out on the floor, talking to residents, playing games with them and ensuring their wellbeing while they live at the center.

She decided to work there because she plans to become a math teacher after graduating college, and wanted more experience working with kids ages 10-17. Since taking on the role, Smart decided to pursue a criminal justice minor in addition to her math and education majors.

“Working here has inspired me to maybe want to be a math teacher at a correctional facility one day,” she said.

She finds value in trying to motivate and inspire youth. She also wants to make sure they feel comfortable and know they’re not alone.

“I can relate to some of their stories,” Smart said. “A lot of our kids, they go through really hard things in their childhoods. A lot of what they’ve been through has led them to where they are now.”

Many of the youth at the shelter haven’t gotten into any trouble, Smart said, but she feels even those who have deserve understanding and empathy.

“They know what they did is wrong, and I know what they did is wrong, but I think that there’s always a backstory to it,” she said. “You have to understand a lot of these kids were just dealt the wrong hand in life.”