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The Hazards of an Athletic Identity
Balance is s a key ingredient for effective living. Careful attention is required to juggle the life roles (work, parent, student, athlete, etc.) that define each of our unique selves. There are obvious benefits to sports participation, but not when the rest of your life is neglected. Overemphasis on one or two roles can disrupt […]

Balance is s a key ingredient for effective living. Careful attention is required to juggle the life roles (work, parent, student, athlete, etc.) that define each of our unique selves. There are obvious benefits to sports participation, but not when the rest of your life is neglected.
Overemphasis on one or two roles can disrupt effective balance, causing other roles to crash to the ground, resulting in grave damage to important things. I’m sure you’ve witnessed such occurrences, perhaps in your own life.
Businesspersons, so wrapped up in climbing the corporate ladder, their families become an afterthought.
People who neglect their own health, claiming they don’t have time. Life is short and if you do not exercise and take care of yourself, it will be much shorter.
The focus of this two-part series is the athletic role, especially as it relates to young people, and the damage that occurs when athletic over-involvement causes imbalance and neglect of other life endeavors.
Part I explores the devastating impact that too much investment in athletics can have and the role of parents, coaches, and social media in the creation of an athletic obsession. Part II delves into what can be done to empower a balanced, healthy life and prevent the damaging impact of an obsessed athletic life.
Why Focus on Athletes?
I’ve witnessed the mental anguish and other damage resulting from a sports-obsessed existence. Everything from clinical anxiety, burnout, depression, declining academic performance, wrecked relationships, and over-use physical injury. Most devastating is a lost-in-the-woods sense of purpose in life that can happen when an athletic career ends.
How did this pervasive problem develop, what does it look like, and what is the contribution of coaches, parents, and social media in creating this imbalanced mess?
Athletic Identity
That’s an actual term defined by Human Performance Coach John Haime as:
“The degree to which you identify with your sport. It’s how you come to perceive yourself, and how others perceive you, and also serves as a basis for your sense of self-worth.”
There’s nothing wrong with athletics being part of your identity, but when it’s your entire sense-of-self it’s problematic.
Self-induced pressure and disruptive performance anxiety can result from so much self-value being wrapped up in athletic identity. That’s why so many young athletes implode or explode when things in sports don’t go their way. Their athletic identity and self-worth have been ruptured.
They attempt to repair the rupture with excuses for their poor performance and other misfortune. Taking responsibility would be a major hit to their ego, so they try to avoid the emotional toll of their bruised self-esteem by blaming referees, field conditions, and even teammates for their miscues. It’s a phenomenon that’s gotten to be common in today’s youth sports culture.
Then there is what happens when an athletic career is threatened or ends. Disappointment and sadness is understandable and normal for athletes who have spent so much time and energy devoted to sports, but it can be devastating when all their eggs have been placed in the sports basket and the bottom falls out.
Mental ruin is exactly what can happen when an athletic career ends due to getting cut, injured, or deciding to leave a sport. Such the-sky-is-falling-in devastation is a relatively new and surprising phenomenon when it comes to youth athletes.
The Adult Contribution to Imbalance
Over-zealous coaches piling excessive demands on the plates of young athletes, and parents that passively go along with it. Non-stop practices, physical training sessions, games , and other team activities that can weigh down the plate of a young person’s life.
School, family, social, and other realms take a back seat and are disrupted with little to no time for much of anything beyond what coaches throw at them. Sports involved kids also have little time to devote to other interests. When asked how much time they have to themselves on a typical school day during a sports season, most young athletes reply that they have about 1-3 hours of freedom.
Many coaches now require year-round commitment to their sport. Traditional season boundaries have disappeared, complicating the ability to play more than one sport or become involved in other organized activities.
So much commitment to sports makes finding time to do homework, being with family or friends, and other things a Rubik’s Cube challenge.
Also contributing to a problematic athletic identity are coaches and parents leading kids into believing that all this committed time will lead them to a college or professional sport career. It could happen, but for 94% of high school athletes their sports career will go no further than high school. They are being unfairly led astray by manipulative coaches and naïve parents that fuel false hope and unrealistic expectations.
Social Media Impact
Young people have always vied for peer status, but social media has turned it into an obsession. Sports have become a common way to attract such attention. Kids spend countless hours posting pictures, videos, and messages focused on their athletic prowess. Facebook moms and dads fall prey to similar behavior.
I have previously written about the poisonous impact of social media on youth. Suffice it to say that social media has contributed to an overemphasis on athletic identity, life imbalance, and the damage sustained by youth. Many of them base their entire being on social media, creating hazards for all young people, not just athletes.
Much of the toxicity derives from people comparing themselves on social media to their peers. As President Theodore Roosevelt wisely observed, “comparison is the thief of joy.” Joy has certainly been stolen from young athletes who live on an emotional roller coaster, battling for social media status with their athletic identity.
The Net Result
Such obsessed athletic identity breeds over-use physical injury, and a relentless fear of failure. A distaste for a previously enjoyed sport can evolve and lead to eventual burnout and/or quitting. Neglect of school, friends, family, and other life roles can ensue.
Then there’s the damage done to many young athletes when their sports career ends. Many of those kids are devastated. They have no idea what to do with their new free time because they’ve never had that kind of time to themselves and don’t know how or what to do with it.
I have witnessed a wide swath of high school and college athletes that have given no thought to what they would do with their lives after their school and athletic career ends. They draw a complete blank when asked about their career plans. It’s as though they expected their athletic careers to last a lifetime. Many of them experience severe anxiety and depression reflecting on a perceived empty future.
What’s the Cure?
That question will be addressed in a sequel to this piece. In the meantime, please reflect on the current content and related material contained in the link provided. Employ your creative resources to generate a plan of attack as a coach, parent, or other adult stakeholder to remedy athletic identity imbalance and associated problems.
Also, please delete your social media platforms.
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IOC Young Leaders help shape the future of sport for development at Olympism365 Summit
A programme focused on sharing, collaborating and confirming action The IOC Young Leaders also met their colleagues from the 2021-2025 cohort during the “Been There, Learnt That” session, where they exchanged solutions and were offered practical tips on delivering their projects. Two Worldwide Olympic Partners, Samsung and Visa, were actively involved in the programme at […]

A programme focused on sharing, collaborating and confirming action
The IOC Young Leaders also met their colleagues from the 2021-2025 cohort during the “Been There, Learnt That” session, where they exchanged solutions and were offered practical tips on delivering their projects.
Two Worldwide Olympic Partners, Samsung and Visa, were actively involved in the programme at the IOC Youth Summit.
Samsung presented to the IOC Young Leaders the vision of Solve for Tomorrow, a programme on which Samsung is collaborating with the IOC to inspire young people around the world to drive positive social change through technology and sport, as part of the company’s global youth education programme.
Participants also took part in a hackathon. The IOC Young Leaders were challenged to design products, services, digital tools and campaigns to expand access to secure and user-friendly financial services. The aim was to propose solutions that are sport-based, scalable and relevant to the IOC’s target groups. The IOC will move forward the winning proposals to design tangible solutions.
Jaqueline Simoneau, an IOC Young Leader and four-time Olympian, concluded: “The Olympism365 Summit was a powerful convergence of vision and action where we had the opportunity to engage with global changemakers. We witnessed bold commitments from the international community and strengthened our collective resolve to drive positive impact through sport, every day of the year. As IOC Young Leaders, and through the IOC Youth Summit, we are committed to supporting this vision through our collective action.”
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Glenn Mills hands over the keys of B&J’s Sports in Harrison, but new owner vows to carry on
When Ben Urso approached Glenn Mills several years ago about taking over his B&J Sports store in Harrison, Mills turned him down, lamenting that “some day” he’ll be ready to retire. That day has come. “I’m delighted to be able to do it,” Urso said. “I feel wonderful when, mostly children, get the rewards of […]

When Ben Urso approached Glenn Mills several years ago about taking over his B&J Sports store in Harrison, Mills turned him down, lamenting that “some day” he’ll be ready to retire.
That day has come.
“I’m delighted to be able to do it,” Urso said. “I feel wonderful when, mostly children, get the rewards of having a new uniform or new practice gear or new trophies because they won an award — just to see how happy it makes them.
“That’s really the duty of sports.”
Mills, now 88, has been a pillar in the local sports community for decades — even before he started his business part time in 1969, going full time in 1998.
From founding the Highland Hornets Youth Football and Cheerleading in 1969 to coaching Tarentum-Brackenridge Little League, Mills has contributed a lot to the local youth sports community.
He remains humble regarding his accomplishments and tries to stay in the background, barely accepting Alle-Kiski Valley Sports Hall of Fame induction in 2020.
He attributes most of the store’s success to his wife, Rose Mills.
“My wife is so helpful,” Mills said. “I couldn’t have this store without her. If I didn’t have a good wife, I wouldn’t have been able to do anything.”
Freeport Area School District Athletic Director Shawn Stivenson remembers a time when he bought custom letter jackets at B&J Sports in his youth.
“Taking my son there, it was actually like a flashback,” Stivenson said. “I wasn’t thinking of it, but when I walked in, it was a flashback to 30 years earlier: I remember being that person trying a jacket on.”
What made B&J Sports so memorable to many is Mills’ care for the lives of those he sells to.
“He always asked about your family, always asked about my kids,” Stivenson said. “If it was a Freeport-Highlands game, he was always there for basketball whether it was boys or girls — always interested in what was going on.”
Urso now batting
The community relies on the shop to provide intimate care regarding sports equipment, trophies and uniforms. It’s an aspect that makes the store unique.
“A lot of people are looking to do things online, but you don’t get the personal service,” Urso said. “Somebody has to be willing to service you. Most online companies won’t do that. If you need something right away, they can’t accommodate you.”
The shoes Mills left to fill are big, but Urso says he’s up to the challenge. Both commented on how similar their passion is for community sports and family.
“In today’s world, with a million things to do, it would be one less thing they should worry about,” Urso said. “Whatever we communicate and agree upon, that’s what will be delivered.”
Despite Mills’ age, the next steps for him still involve helping out at the store — at least for awhile.
“My wife wants to pay him for me to stay down there,” Mills joked. “She doesn’t know what to do with me.”
But, with more free time, he’ll do what he’s been doing for years: going to his family’s sports games.
He might even take his wife on a trip now that his store of 56 years is in good hands.
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2025 Little League® Photo Contest Now Open, Accepting Top Photos that Exemplify Values of the Program
As Little League® celebrates yet another birthday as the world’s largest and most trusted youth sports organization, it is excited to announce the launch of its 2025 Photo Contest, giving fans the opportunity to submit their favorite photos from the season that showcase the five core values of the Little League program – Fun, Teamwork, […]


As Little League® celebrates yet another birthday as the world’s largest and most trusted youth sports organization, it is excited to announce the launch of its 2025 Photo Contest, giving fans the opportunity to submit their favorite photos from the season that showcase the five core values of the Little League program – Fun, Teamwork, Integrity, Inclusion, and Community.
With submissions accepted at LittleLeague.org/PhotoContest from June 6 until 9 p.m. ET on August 1, 2025, the Little League Photo Contest gives fans of all ages the opportunity to tell the story of how their photos bring the values of the Little League program to life with a chance to be recognized during the 2025 LLBWS as well as within the World of Little League® Museum.
SUBMIT PHOTO
Those interested in participating in this year’s photo contest are encouraged to show the many ways they are bringing the values to life in their own communities. As a reminder, these are how the five core values keep our programs inspired by our mission every day:
- Fun: Fun is what makes our game so memorable. We cultivate fun through enjoyable, memorable, and safe experiences, which result in a sense of belonging and individual growth.
- Teamwork: Team means everything here! We believe that teamwork is the shared efforts of individuals, characterized by trust, commitment, and communication, in pursuit of common goals.
- Integrity: These focus on the lessons we learn on and off the field. We act with respect, honesty, and integrity in all that we do.
- Inclusion: Everyone deserves a sense of belonging and the opportunity to be a part of a team. We prioritize inclusion as the intentional part of our culture, which is created when we provide equitable opportunities, access, and respect for individual differences and perspectives.
- Community: We’re committed to the development and growth of our communities within our program.

For the third-straight year, the top three selected photos in August will also receive direct entry into the Professional Baseball Photographer’s Association Photo Contest, set to take place at the end of the year.
Over the course of the summer, Little League International will also choose select photos from the Photo Contest and share those stories across its official social media platforms (@LittleLeague) and on its website to promote the contest and celebrate these stories. After the conclusion of the contest on August 1, Little League International’s staff will work to identify the top photos from the contest and conduct a vote to determine a the top three to be featured on Little League’s official social media platforms (@LittleLeague) as well as posted in the World of Little League Museum with previous honorees of Little League’s various photo contests.
2024 Top Photos
For more information, including how to submit your photo and the official Terms and Conditions, visit LittleLeague.org/PhotoContest.
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K-Wings announce return of free NHL STREET camps
Kalamazoo — KALAMAZOO, MI – The Kalamazoo Wings, proud ECHL affiliate of the National Hockey League’s Vancouver Canucks, announced the return of Joel Martin’s ‘Game On’ Street Hockey camps for Summer 2025 on XXXXX, powered by NHL STREET™, along with partnerships with The Kalamazoo Promise and Kzoo Parks to facilitate free of cost camps for […]

Kalamazoo — KALAMAZOO, MI – The Kalamazoo Wings, proud ECHL affiliate of the National Hockey League’s Vancouver Canucks, announced the return of Joel Martin’s ‘Game On’ Street Hockey camps for Summer 2025 on XXXXX, powered by NHL STREET™, along with partnerships with The Kalamazoo Promise and Kzoo Parks to facilitate free of cost camps for 200-plus children in Kalamazoo’s inner city.
Five Street Hockey camps will be held at Kalamazoo’s Upjohn and LaCrone Parks from June to August, exclusively for Kzoo Parks Summer Camps this summer. Each camper is set to receive free admission to the almost two-hour event, an official NHL STREET™Jersey, a street hockey stick and a swag bag, courtesy of The Kalamazoo Promise.
“The K-Wings are proud of the return of NHL STREET™, and we’re so excited to partner with The Kalamazoo Promise and Kzoo Parks,” said Toni Will, Kalamazoo Wings General Manager and Governor. “It’s always a no-brainer to team up with local organizations that commit to serving the next generation, and most especially organizations that care about making an impact in underserved communities like they both do.”
NHL STREET™is the premier ball hockey experience designed to provide kids ages 6 to 16 and their families with the best of what youth sports can be: having fun, staying active, making friends and creating great memories.
Established in 2005, The Kalamazoo Promise allows students who graduate from the Kalamazoo Public Schools and meet the basic requirements to receive up to 100% of tuition and mandatory fees paid for at any in-state public community college or university. Currently, over 8,700 students have used The Promise for higher education with over $230 million invested in that span.
“The Kalamazoo Promise is excited to partner with the NHL STREET™ hockey experience to bring this unique opportunity to our community,” said Von Washington, CEO of The Kalamazoo Promise. “We believe in the power of sports to positively impact children’s lives, and we are committed to providing access to quality programs that promote physical activity, teamwork and leadership skills. Moreover, participating in NHL STREET can have a positive impact on the mental well-being of children. Engaging in team sports has been shown to boost self-esteem and confidence, reduce stress and anxiety, and promote social connections. These benefits are especially important for children who may be facing challenges or adversity in their personal lives.”
Kzoo Parks offers a variety of programs for Kalamazoo’s youth annually, with financial assistance available to those in need. The camps participating in the ‘GAME ON’ are affiliated with Camp Kzoo, a summer day camp with nine different weeks of special activities and field trips for children aged 5 (Kindergarten completed) to 12 years old. Click here for more information about Camp Kzoo.
“We’re thrilled to announce that our summer camps are once again teaming up with the K-Wings and the NHL STREET™program and bringing it to all 6 summer camp sites,” said Pete Aerts, Kzoo Parks Recreation Coordinator. “This exciting partnership brings high-energy, hockey-inspired fun to camp, helping our campers stay active, build skills, and make unforgettable memories.”
Last summer, the K-Wings hosted 64 campers across two summer camps in Kalamazoo. This summer, by partnering with the two pillars in the Kalamazoo community, the Wings continue their commitment to bring the game to a new generation while breaking down barriers for youth athletes to get involved in sports.
Camps will be hosted and coached by Joel Martin, K-Wings Director of Hockey Operations and Head Coach. K-Wings players & staff, KOHA staff (Kalamazoo Optimist Hockey Association), along with respective camp counselors, will also assist Martin in the camp. The children will learn basic hockey fundamentals and participate in a hockey tournament inside an NHL STREET™ branded street hockey arena.
“We’re proud to see NHL Street™ making a real impact in our community by giving kids a fun, accessible way to stay active and build confidence through street hockey,” Martin said. “This program wouldn’t be possible without the incredible support from our partners — Kalamazoo Parks & Recreation and The Kalamazoo Promise. Their commitment to youth enrichment and inclusive recreation has helped bring this vision to life, and we’re excited to continue growing together.”
NHL STREET™ brings new style, energy and gameplay to the sport, offering families an affordable, neighborhood-based model that allows kids across North America to learn and play hockey. A year later, NHL STREET™ has more than 100 league operators in the U.S. and Canada with more than 2,500 youth enjoying the game of street hockey, including in places where hockey has previously been unavailable.
*press release courtesy Kalamazoo Wings
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A high school softball player forces Minnesotans to pick a side on transgender rights
It’s not fair that some athletes have access to high-quality coaching and resources while others don’t. It’s also not fair that Michael Phelps was blessed with a wide wingspan and unusually large hands and feet. Science won’t answer the human question of whether we ought to shut out kids from participating in the cultural touchstone […]
It’s not fair that some athletes have access to high-quality coaching and resources while others don’t. It’s also not fair that Michael Phelps was blessed with a wide wingspan and unusually large hands and feet.
Science won’t answer the human question of whether we ought to shut out kids from participating in the cultural touchstone that is youth sports.
In a run-of-the-mill interview I caught of the Minnesota softball player, filmed before the controversy exploded, she seemed like any other young athlete, with a shy smile, swelling with pride over the work she put into her game. I can’t fault the high school league for opening its doors so kids like her have a shot in athletics. She’s learning how to find grace under pressure, the values of teamwork and mastering a skill she was maybe once terrible at.
I couldn’t imagine denying that vital opportunity to any kid, especially one who is more vulnerable to bullying and depression.
Now is the time to find an acceptable balance between the extremes. In California last week, organizers of the state high school track and field championship duplicated medals and changed the rules so more girls could compete in events that included a trans athlete. Trump had threatened to cut funding to the state if it allowed a trans girl to compete, and a plane flew over the stadium with a banner that read “No Boys in Girls’ Sports!”
The new rule allowed AB Hernandez, a transgender athlete, to share her state title victories — and her place on the the podium — with the cisgender girls who finished behind her. In one scene captured by the New York Times, Hernandez and one of her competitors put their hands around each other and posed for photos with their medals.
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